“Let your alignment (with Well-Being) be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary. And not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that one down.” – Abraham Hicks
This image I came across on the twitter feed @TheWorldStories. It’s a great graphic showing where the emotion is felt on the body. The black areas can be considered areas which are blocked so that the energy is not flowing as it should. The image for Love shows unblocked energy. Energy blocks are due to beliefs. If an emotion is felt, such as sadness, you can put your attention on the emotion and follow your thought about how you feel to a belief which you can then re-define to something less restrictive. The only thing keeping us from experiencing energy flow such as on the Love graphic are the beliefs about ourselves which are not in alignment with who we really are. So remove or re-define the corresponding belief, and more energy will flow. Most beliefs are restrictive, such as, I need to be a good person. This belief is ambiguous because ‘good’ is relative. Essentially, who ever defines ‘good’ is giving us the definition of how we should be. What we need to do is define good ourselves, trusting that our nature is Love.
This graphic maps the chakra areas to regions along the spine, within the body and how energy blocks in these regions effect the body function. In this way, we can increase our body awareness, become sensitive to its responses to our interactions, identify the issue listed on the left that may be leading to the physical problem and work on releasing beliefs and letting the energy flow. For example, digestion is effected by self-confidence (personal power) and is related to emotions such as anxiety and shame. Working with this type of information, we can mindfully manage our health and well-being. Below is a chart from the Emotion Code book that maps emotion to the body and the possible cause of the problem.
For example, stomach problems could be due to anxiety, worry, etc. which are brought on by feelings of failure, helplessness, etc. due to lack of self-confidence. Lack of self-confidence is due to a lack of belief in self, and this belief can be examined and re-worked to a more positive state with some introspection.
I’d like input from readers on techniques you use to stop thoughts. Thoughts are interpretation of impressions you sense when interacting with the environment. First you observe, then you receive an impression and translate this impression into thoughts. The thoughts, if you pay attention to them, become a story about what you are observing. If you could stop at the initial impression without generating and following thoughts, then you would be open to a different experience that you might have missed. The train of thoughts, if followed would create a story or definition which limits the experience, than if you just observe and let the experience unfold.
A technique I use is to fully focus on what I am observing, with my full awareness taking in all of my surroundings. Since my attention is captivated by observing, I don’t even think about thinking.
Other methods might include meditation, filling the head with music (which I also do), concentrating on a simple mantra while observing, concentrating on the breath, or just giving the mind something to do to distract it from what you are observing (visualizing a simple image, like a shape for instance). If you do see a thought, the you can visualize hitting it out of the park with a baseball bat as it passes by without engaging it.
Please share any techniques you use to quiet the mind and stop your thoughts.
I love this video which shows the fun side of playing with perception.
Clever Guy Uses Cels And An iPhone To Animate Real Life
Some excerpts that help explain reality…
Our whole life is a fooling around. You can do it because you are not aware of how you waste time, how you waste energy; how, finally, life is wasted – you are not aware. It is going down the drain. Everything is going down the drain. Only when death comes to you, you may become aware, alert: what have I been doing? What have I done with life? A great opportunity has been lost. What was I doing fooling around? You were not sober. You never reflected on what you were doing.
Life is not just to pass, it is to reach somewhere deep within you. Life is not on the surface; it is not the circumference, it is the center. And you have not reached to the center yet. Sober up! Enough time is already wasted. Be alert and see what you are doing. And what are you doing? Searching for money? It is finally, ultimately useless. It is again a game, the money game. You have more than others, you feel good; Others have more than you feel bad. It is a game. But what is the meaning of it? What do you gain from it? Even if you have all the money this world contains, at the moment of death, you will die as a beggar. So the whole wealth of the world cannot make you rich. Games cannot make you rich. Sober up!
– Mindfulness in the Modern World: How Do I Make Meditation Part of Everyday Life? (Osho Life Essentials)
In the creation of everything that exists, thought always comes first. Everything that you see around you was once a thought or an idea – a vibrational concept that matured into what you call physical reality.
Your planet was conceived from the non-physical realm long before that which you call human walked upon it, and as that non-physical focus, from what humans call source, was cast upon the idea of it, your wonderous Leading Edge time-space reality was created…First, there is thought, and as more thought is offered to any subject, the thought begins to take form until there is manifestation of that which humans call “reality.” So not unlike the creation of the planet itself, as you stand in your physical bodies – as manifested extensions of that which you call source – you continue the creation of your planet, and life upon it, through your thought.
– The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide
Now I know this is radical stuff but it’s true nevertheless. And this brings us to the startling conclusion that you and I can lead happy lives regardless of our circumstances, regardless of what we have or don’t have. Because when we drop our interpretation of events, we find ourselves living here and now in this present moment. And that’s about it. With no stories , no comparisons, no expectations, life just is and we are just here. And what could possibly be wrong with that? And so we find, to our great and eternal delight, that at this very moment, when we drop our stories and beliefs and stand quietly in the now, we’re quite happy! We find that at this very moment everything is ok. And that strangely enough, happiness is what we are. Happiness is our nature, our natural state.
– The Awakening Human Being
So the question is, Is there a monistic alternative to material realism, where mind and matter are integrally part of one reality, but a reality that is not based on matter? I am convinced there is. The alternative that I propose in this book is monistic idealism. This philosophy is monistic as opposed to dualistic, and it is idealism because ideas (not to be confused with ideals) and the consciousness of them are considered to be the basic elements of reality; matter is considered to be secondary. In other words, instead of positing that everything (including consciousness) is made of matter, this philosophy posits that everything (including matter) exists in and is manipulated from consciousness. Note that the philosophy does not say that matter is unreal but that the reality of matter is secondary to that of consciousness, which itself is the ground of all being – including matter.
–The Self-Aware Universe
So what is present moment awareness? It is a state of Being in which we effortlessly integrate the authentic and Divine Presence that we are with each God-given moment we are in so that we are able to respond consciously to every experience we are having. By accomplishing this, our response is always the same: gratitude – a flow of gratitude that washes us of all our illusions. Entering such a state may sound hard and complicated when we are living in time. It is, however, effortless and completely natural because present moment awareness is our birthright. It is the kingdom of awareness through whose gates the prodigal children return. The hard part has been attempting to find what we did not know we had lost. The best part is realizing that we have been looking for something that has already found us.
– The Presence Process – A Journey Into Present Moment Awareness
Projection sends component energies of the Self, the central part of each of us, out into the world. When these energies remain unconscious to the person projecting them, the result is a loss of psychic energy and freedom. When the energies are made conscious (with ego and Self being brought into balance through the ego’s willingness to serve as a vehicle for the Self), the result is a free individual who radiates light and love into the world. In contrast, when two individuals are involved Ina deeply repressed projection, both experience a curtailment of the freedom of their individual egos and subsequent energy loss. You can be sure that you are involved in a deep-seated unconscious projection with any person whose mere physical presence exhausts you for no apparent reason. Most often this “exhaustion relationship” can be found with a member of your immediate family, usually one of your parents. Experiment the next time you encounter such an individual. Don’t expect the old responses and behavior. Let the person be new, and send love out of your heart consciously. Love is the greatest freeing energy we have. You may be surprised at the results for you both.
– The Inner Guide Meditation: A Spiritual Technology for the 21st Century
The world we see merely reflects our own internal frame of reference-the dominant ideas, wishes and emotions in our minds. “Projection makes perception.” We look inside first, decide the kind of world we want to see and then project that world outside, making it the truth as we see it. We make it true by our interpretations of what it is that we are seeing. If we are using perception to justify our own mistakes-our anger, our impulses to attack, our lack of love in whatever form it may take-we will see a world of evil, destruction, malice, envy and dispair. All this we must learn to forgive, not because we are being “good” and “charitable”, but because what we are seeing is not true. We have distorted the world by our twisted defenses, and are therefore seeing what is not there. As we learn to recognize our perceptual errors, we also learn to look past them or “forgive.” At the same time we are forgiving ourselves, looking past our distorted self-concepts to the Self That God created in us and as us.
– A Course in Miracles
The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness. Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing. ― Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
One of the goals of mindfulness training is to get to the point where we are interacting with others as our authentic self without needing to put any thought into it. To do this we need to recognize how we are currently expressing ourselves to others. Usually people have beliefs about themselves that effect the way they feel about themselves, and they express a different attitude to others because they want to hide any negative feelings they may have about themselves.
This expression of attitude is the personality. So a person consists of their inner self – emotional and mental composition, their projected personality, and their true self (from the heart). In order to express their true self, the personality would have to be in sync with their true self as expressed from the heart. This is when you can express yourself without even thinking about how you appear to others.
Your true self is represented by expression from the heart and your inner self is the way you currently feel about yourself. How you express yourself is how you prefer to be seen, which is usually a closer match to your true self than how your internal beliefs about yourself make you feel. The goal then is to move toward expressing from the heart. To do this, you pay mindful attention to how you feel when expressing yourself. If you feel awkward or not at ease, then you are not interacting from the heart and there are beliefs about yourself that need to be examined.
Make a note of what is making you feel uncomfortable so you can take a look at it later. It may be that you feel uncomfortable about how you look when talking to someone while portraying yourself as being carefree. Just notice this discomfort and at a later time try to track down the belief that is causing the discomfort. In the meantime, try to move awareness to the heart and talk from there. The goal is to get to point where you are so comfortable with yourself that you are not even aware of yourself when interacting with others.
Excerpted from Choose the Life You Want, the Mindful Way to Happiness
By Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD
Choose to Choose
Choose your own path
Be Mindful of the Wonder
Take time to really look at things
Take a Step Back
Don’t react emotionally, respond thoughtfully
Think and Act Purposefully
Carry Yourself With Confidence and Pride
Act as if
Make a Difference
Just Do It!
Experience Your Work as a Calling
Actively Learn the Lessons of Hardship
Appreciate and Learn From Those Around You
Express and Reveal
Seek the Win-Win
Treat Your Body with Respect
Create Your Own Luck
Remind Yourself of Your True Self
Commend and Compliment
Be a Benefit Finder
Listen With Empathy and Openness
Invest in Experiences
Be Open to Suggestions
Say Yes Only When Your Vision is Served
Accept Reality and Act On It
Bring Humor and Lightness
Focus On What Truly Mattters
Focus and Think
Be Hopeful and Optimistic
Make Others Feel Good
Focus On Strengths and Abilities
Focus on Process
It’s the journey that matters
Perceive Hardships as Temporary
Open Your Mind and Heart to Learning
Connect to Your Values
See the Glass as Half Full
Seize the Moment
Do What You Want to Do
Learn From Failure
Help and Contribute
Breathe Deeply and Slowly
Respect Those Close to You
Maintain the Strength of Independence
Pursue Your Passion
Appreciate the Good
Be True to Your Self
See the Other
Recognize When Good Enough Will Do
Actively Accept Your Emotion
Allow the emotion and reflect on it
Observe the Storm
Mindfully observe the drama
Treat Yourself with Kindness and Generosity
Keep your spirit up with uplifting activities
Think Global, Act Local
Bring Positive Energy Wherever You Go
Create Your Future
Be Open and Sincere
Be honest to yourself and others about how you feel
Become Who You Want to Be
Commit to Overcoming Hurdles
Sing, Dance, Listen
Perceive Difficulty as a Challenge
Be a Beautiful Enemy
Be Afraid and Go Ahead Anyway
Be Playful and Light
Take the Larger Context Into Consideration
Be the Scribe of Your Own Journey
Focus on the Positive
Lead with Deeds
Seek to be Known
Find the New in the Familiar
Experience Heartfelt Positivity
Work Toward Your Dreams
Act From the Best Within
See the Seed of Greatness in Each Person
Live with Integrity
Simplify Your Life
Treat Your Mistakes as Valuable Feedback
Appreciate Your Family and Friends
Lead a Spiritual Existence
Be Hard on the Problem
Be an Active Agent
Change Your Perspective
Focus on Successes
Give Yourself Permission to be Human
Find the Extraordinary in the Ordinary
Take Dreams Seriously